i Want my Samantha- Part II

I'm sure you are all waiting with baited breath to hear the next chapter in the "I Want my Samantha" saga. Well, at least I know Lisa is - she said so in her comment.

First, I'd just like to send a shout out to all the people who pitched in to help me resolve my sad, girlfriend-less state to either volunteer their own services (Kari, Sarah and Aly- yes, yes, and yes let's go!) or to volunteer the services of their friends. Mary Hales--special shout out to you for not only volunteering your friend, but for picking one that would be so game to respond right away. Holla girl. Good lookin' out.

Brian Donovan--I greatly appreciate your ding dong ditch cookies idea it was clearly a stroke of genius that I will pass on to some other desperate person in the future...probably of the male persuasion. It is somehow more entertaining to think of a 35ish year old man running away from a door leaving cookies than a 35ish year old woman leaving it for a woman she wants to be-friend. Well, scratch that. Both are ridiculous and hilarious. I'll give it a whirl for you.

On to the story. I have found success. I am thrilled to say that so far no one has told me I am sad or pathetic and I have two particular success stories to report.

First, a response from linkup. The very day I sent that out and had "submit button" regret, a girl I wrote to responded. I opened her email with great fear of rejection and ready to read a request to "please stop stalking people online" only to read her first sentence of, "ok, first of all your email made me laugh! But only because I can totally sympathize with your plight. 19 yr old girls and younger guys can be sweet but, let be honest, we need friends who are going through similar stages of life."

I literally exhaled, felt relief wash over me that she didn't think I was crazy AND had a huge smile on my face. I had no idea until I read it how scared I was that I had sent that email. We're meeting for lunch soon. I will not be carrying a rose or a copy of Eat, Pray, Love.

Second, Mary Hales set me up with her friend Katy, who in turn invited me to lunch with two of her friends this afternoon. I went and was pleasantly surprised to find some really cool girls that were entertaining, easy to talk to and in my stage of life. It was a great lunch and I look forward to seeing them again soon!


So here's the deal folks--vulnerability and a little reaching out to the universe (and all of your known and unknown online friends) can turn out very positive results. Allow me to wax philosophical, and a bit serious here for a moment. What I walk away from this experience understanding (yet again) is that when we take a proactive stance about a negative situation or state of mind (like feeling lonely) and reach out we tend to find "abundance" and a more positive situation. When we put fear aside (It's scary to tell the world you're lonely or sad or in some way vulnerable) and share a common human experience, people relate to you and you tend to find community and solution.

I am overwhelmed at how quickly I saw this happen to me. It's completely changed my (as Dr. Boob would say) "being state." So, here's to all of you in blog world--thanks for the lift!