Ok, so Gary sparked a minor debate with his comment that you should and would know immediately on the first date if this is the person you can marry. That you will feel like you can't live without them. So for argument's sake I'm curious. Please weigh in with how it happened for you if you're married and how you think it will happen for you if you're not.
I know Delsa at least was MUCH more practical than that. :)
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
How DOES marriage happen?
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Well i met Abe four years before we went on our first date, and even after our first date I didn't walk away thinking this was it, he's the one. That didn't happen for another week. ;) Okay, so maybe I'm not the best one to answer this one. I'll be interested to read the comments though.
Jon and I went out 3 or 4 times before I knew for sure that I was not interested. We didn't go out again for a year after that. This second round of dating lasted for over a year before we got married. It helped that date #1 of round two was at the Chef's Table.
Scot and I were set up by Jessica Blackwell...& when we first met, I certainly did not think he was my "one". I didn't really think he was my type at all - it took a while for me to figure things out.
To get to the heart of your question, I didn't experience the "my heart started flip-flopping" business that Gary seems so sure of. Come on Gary, everyone knows that flip flops are the cheapest kind of shoes...so what does that say about your love? ;)
I don't know what counts as my first date with Abram, but I sure didn't know I was going to marry him the first time we hung out. I will say though, once we got over that whole "I'm not a Mormon" thing, things moved pretty fast. In fact, once we started officially dating it was only a month before we both knew we wanted to get married.
I knew Rob for a while before we started dating. We bonded over March Madness and I thought he was nice but too young. After a few months he asked me out and I discovered he was a big science nerd when he started talking about bacteria and light refraction. Then he told me he build a laser for his thesis and I was smitten. Unfortunately, this is not a joke.
While I believe that Angela and I fell in love on the first date that date was a year in the making. Angela and I originally met when a mutual friend invited us both over for a fix-up. Angela knew it was a fix up but I didn’t. She met and hated me telling our friend the next day “he is obnoxious and he wears his jeans too tight, you can see everything!” We met again a few months later at a party at the same friends house and I liked her but was afraid to ask her out, I mean between the big cross earrings and the fact that she was drinking alcohol I didn’t think we were a match. A Jew who hates the taste of alcohol and a girl who wears crosses and drinks kamikaze’s how would that work? I didn’t ask her out that time but we did meet again a few months later at our friend’s house when she came over to show her girlfriend pictures of the doctor who asked her to marry him. I told Angela that I guess I had lost my chance with her and in return she asked me out to dinner. A few days prior to our scheduled dinner date we met with our mutual of friends for a board game at my house and had a great time. Finally when we went on our first date it was actually our 5th meeting, and now you know the rest of the story of love at first sight.
Now I'm sorry that I made fun of Gary's heart doing flip flops - if only I'd known about the jeans, that's WAY better material... ( :
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